- Created: Wednesday, 10 June 2020 11:05
- Written by IVA's Board of Directors
(The following is a speech written by Danielle Montiel, Program Administrator and the "glue" of IVA's Charter to Promoting Class of 2017 on June 15, 2 2017. Danielle passed away in January of 2018 after a year-long battle with cancer. She will be missed.)
I’m so glad to be here with you today. I’m speaking on behalf of the team of families, some of whom are in this room, who came together with philosophers Dr. Jason Baehr and Dr. Steve Porter in 2010 and wondered, what if a middle school experience could look like a small, intimate educational community centered around the cultivation of intellectual virtues? What if we could offer another educational opportunity to add to the rich legacy of education in Long Beach? We worked for three years, and we got a school, and we got YOU! And while we’ve done our best to build a school that lives out a clear, meaningful mission and vision, our focus has always been on the hearts and minds of our dear students.
Thank you, students for taking the RISK of coming to this school. You left behind close elementary friends to take a step into the unknown. You’ve had awkward moments explaining to friends and acquaintances that you attend a “charter school” (whatever that is), and one named “intellectual virtues”…or is it virtual? Or values? In making some significant sacrifices to attend IVA, you have been co-creators of a very special school. Your enthusiasm, kindness…your growth mindset, your daily practice of open-mindedness, courage, curiosity have made this school what it is. And I’m personally grateful, because your legacy and example now benefit my own daughter, who joined IVA as a 6th grader in the fall.
Just as a group of families reimagined middle school education and so created IVA, we as staff hope we have helped you reimagine what you and your mind can be in the years after you leave IVA. As you know, much of what happens at IVA revolves around “intellectual virtues,” which are nothing more (or less) than the mental habits we all need in order to think and learn well. You will be thinking and learning for the rest of your lives. And your success in your job, relationships, and many other areas of life will depend on how well you practice these traits. The exposure to and training you’ve had in intellectual virtues here at IVA give you an advantage in these important areas. But they will make the greatest difference if you keep them in your hearts and minds, continue to reflect on your own intellectual character strengths and weaknesses, and seize every opportunity to put the virtues into practice at school and beyond. We encourage you to keep growing your self-awareness, ability to reflect, and understanding of your mind.
And if I might go off script momentarily…I’ll add that my own personal health journey this past year has called on my intellectual character like never before. I’ve had to make some of the most critical decisions of my life to give me the best chances of a long, healthy life. Many times, like you studying for a math unit test that you fear you might fail, I’ve had to will myself to be attentive and careful as I’ve listened to doctors explain options and had to filter a fire hose of medical information coming my way. I’ve had to be courageous in facing my incorrect assumptions. And in all this, I’m so glad to have the language and concepts of intellectual character to understand my own thinking because I truly believe it is helping me to make good decisions, and to live well.
[Students, it has mattered that you were here, each of you, and your presence will be celebrated and missed]. Thank you.
What do you remember about your middle school history textbook?
I don’t remember much of mine. Its lines of text were blurred with images of the past I could scarcely care to think twice about. And why should I have? Growing up in a calm, Pleasantville-like suburb of Orange County, I had very little reason to believe that I needed to retain information on ancient pyramids, medieval knights, or even memorize the finer details of our constitution’s preamble. The past was the past. All I needed was that “A”.
And I got the “A”, time and again, by playing the game.
I took multiple choice tests, reproduced facts, and performed skits with my classmates. I colored in maps of the world, studied battle strategies, and created dioramas of great architectural feats.
The textbook helped me do all this, but I don’t remember any of it. Not one line of text, not one image, not one question stands out to me. It took me a while to understand why this was.
6th Grader Luke formed the Mountain Foxes Club this year, organized their first climb, and has this to report:
The IVA Mountain Club achieved summit success!
Last week, my 6th graders read various articles on homelessness in the U.S. to gain a bigger picture of the novel that we are currently reading, Maniac Magee, by Jerry Spinelli, which touches on homelessness as well as issues related to race. I asked my students to choose two of the seven articles that I had assigned them on Newsela and instructed them to write questions on the board that were coming up for them while reading. As students went to the board with their markers, I was surprised, but also proud to see that their questions focused much more on issues related to racism than I had anticipated. I was proud in that moment because I knew that my students felt safe at IVA to ask these types of questions. Some of the questions included, “Are other minorities treated the same way in different areas? “Why is there so much racial discrimination in the U.S.A?” “Why do people judge by race or gender, and when did this start?” “In what states is racism most realized?” Not only were they asking questions about homelessness, they were making connections between racism and poverty.
Season to use: the holidays
Process: Visually represent your response to a video meant to invoke emotions in you and discuss.
Disclaimer! IVA thrives in guiding students to learn and live well. This family assignment is not intended to invoke moral practice but for your family to get to practice intellectual virtues together as you think and talk about the ideas around empathy. Use any part of this Advisory guide that works for your family.
Topic: Any topic with potential for controversy or differing family beliefs - hot button topics.
Season to use: This process was first created to address the presidential election in Advisory but for your family it can be used for any controversial topic where you might have divergent responses. To use for any topic replace the italicized words.
Process: Micro Lab Protocol Thinking Routine with Question Prompts
Directions: The election was on our minds election week for both students and teachers. Our staff staff worked through how to give students the space and time to process their thoughts while modeling and facilitating intellectual virtue practice to support students' listening to each other and avoiding overwhelming emotions or name calling. In a few classes, the teachers processed using the thinking routine Micro Lab Protocol. This is a routine that allows students to process and listen together without being dependent on a teachers' comments or personal feelings. This routine develops intellectual autonomy and open-mindedness.
Topic: Fixed vs. Growth Mindset
Season to use: Any time a student is struggling
Process: Open Discussion with Question Prompts
Intelligence is inborn. You have a certain amount and that’s it.
You can develop your intelligence over time.
Tends to value looking smart over anything else
Values challenging work as an opportunity to grow
Says, "I can’t do this"
Says, "I love a challenge, mistakes are my friend"
Doesn't like effort: if you have the ability it should come naturally – if you have to work hard you feel dumb
Appreciates the effort: even geniuses have to work hard
Doesn't like setbacks because they call intelligence into question – self-condemnation or defeat
Remains involved even under and obstacle, seek resources, try new strategies – opportunity for growth
3. Reflect: Celebrate the opportunity to grow in this next year together! Do you want accountability together? Will you check in, if so then when? What virtues did your family practice together in this discussion?
(The following is a short speech by IVA math teacher Cari Noble delivered at the promotion ceremony of IVA's first graduating class.)
I used to think that the best thing about teaching was the look on a student’s face when, after a long struggle, they finally “got it”. I still think that it is pretty great. But now I think that the best thing about teaching your class is the gratitude you show.
There are students in this class who say “thank you” after each and every lesson. Every single time, it hits me that I am so lucky to be teaching students who are grateful to be taught. It is something that I feel from all of you, even if you don’t say it. You see learning as a gift and you are thankful for it. You recognize our efforts to create opportunities for you to think, and you appreciate it.
Today, it is my turn to express my gratitude to you.
First, to the parents: You took such a huge leap of faith three years ago. Thank you for trusting us with your children, your babies. Thank you for letting go, even when it was hard.
To the students: Thank you for the kindness you showed to all of us, your teachers and your classmates. Thank you for the way you welcomed new students with open arms. Thank you for the generosity you had, giving people fresh starts when they needed them most. Thank you for pushing me to explain clearer and be a better teacher. Thank you for struggling through POWs and projects. Thank you for laughing at my jokes and making learning fun. Mostly, thank you for the questions and wonders.
Next fall, IVA will open its doors and, for the first time, you won’t be there, but really, you will. You have made this school what it is. I hope that you look back with pride at what we created together. I know it is not likely that you will all remember how to find the area of a trapezoid or the quadratic formula, but I hope you learned to love thinking, and I hope that you continue to be grateful for any opportunity you have to do so.
(The following is a short speech by IVA Board Chairman Eric Churchill delivered at the promotion ceremony of IVA's first graduating class.)
You guys did it! The inaugural class of IVA is now moving on to high school! It seems like such a short time ago that I was standing in front of you talking about myrtle trees and all the work a small group of people had done to build this school. I also said that it is the hope of everyone here that you will take advantage of this opportunity and make this school great by being great thinkers and citizens—and that if you do that, not only will IVA be successful, but the world will be changed, for the better.
Does anyone remember that? Probably not, and that’s okay. But I was intentional! You see, we knew that if we could help shape your intellectual character then that would affect how you view the world. Learning well leads to living well; the two are related. As an example, now that you have learned what it means to be intellectually open-minded, you should be quick to listen to others, and if you do this, you will learn about other opinions, beliefs, and values that shape our world. This, in turn, will impact how you live your life. If you don’t, you will miss a great opportunity.
Our school’s motto is to learn and live well, and during your time here, while you may think we have only been focusing on learning, we have also been teaching you how to live well. Through the virtues, thinking routines, and relationships with your teachers and other students, you have been given the freedom to be yourselves and to think deeply in a supportive academic environment.
So what are the next steps for living well in that far-off land called high school? And how will the world be impacted by what you learned here at IVA? Here are three things you might want to remember:
To quote Albert Einstein, someone who was constantly curious: “The important thing is to not stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing. One cannot help but be in awe when he contemplates the mysteries of eternity, of life, of the marvelous structure of reality.”
You might be thinking, he keeps saying I can change the world; but I am only only one person. IVA gave you the tools to be intellectually virtuous. And if we did our job correctly, you will never view education and learning the same. You will view the world with curiosity and thoughtfulness. You will ask the big questions. You will be humble. Ultimately, if you remain rooted in your intellectual character, you will serve as an example to others, which will change the world. IVA will be known as a school that equips students to engage the world with curiosity and thoughtfulness, to know themselves, and to live well. You will be the examples of that. You will change the world.
I am excited to follow your progress through high school and beyond. I am so very proud of you. I am so very proud of this school. So, go be foxy!
(The following is a short speech delivered at the promotion ceremony of IVA's first graduating class.)
By Ian McCurry, English and History Teacher
I still remember the first day of school. We had our beautiful ceremony out in the courtyard, with all the excitement, all the expectation. And then half of you came with me and half of you went into Ms. Noble’s room. And I remember looking at you, and seeing you looking at me, and I was bursting with questions. What would this be like? I wondered what questions you had. What were your expectations? What did you want to know? In fact, I asked you, right there in that moment what were your questions.
“Where do we change for P.E.?”
“Do we get lockers?”
“What class do we go to next?”
“Can I go to bathroom?”
“Can I start a club?”
I knew of course that you had other questions. Deeper questions. And I would come to love some of those questions throughout the next three years. I’ve been listening these last three years. I’ve been listening most intently to your questions.
“What were the first human beings like?”
“Are there undiscovered hominids still somewhere else in Africa?”
“Why did Bilbo go with the dwarves to the dragon Smaug when he was so afraid?”
“Why was the town in Maniac Magee split between blacks and whites?”
“Why were so many Jews, like Anne Frank, killed?”
“Why did Maycomb decide Tom Robinson was guilty?”
“Why do people tell stories?”
“How do writers come up with their stories?”
In short, your questions have said to me, “What is the world like?” “And why is it that way?” and “Could the world be different?” “Could it change?”
Your questions have said a lot about who you are and who you will become.
If I had to give you all a gift—the most valuable gift I could think of as you leave our school—I would give you something you already have. I would give you back your questions. Because I believe, more than anything else, these questions will help you walk through this world with a sense of wonder and excitement.
So in a sense graduation, commencement, promotion are endings. It is the end of a school year. And for you 8th graders it is the end of middle school. And there is, of course, a sadness with that. But graduation, commencement, and promotion are also beginnings. Today marks the beginning of your next journey. And as you go to your various schools, I encourage to go with questions. Keep asking questions. And keep seeking answers to those questions.
The following is the first in a series of blog posts reflecting on the promotion of IVA's first 8th grade class ...
By Danielle Montiel, Program Administrator
“We’re all so close…I can’t believe it’s ending and we won’t be all together next year,” said an 8th grader during our Advisory meeting. Similar sentiments followed: “Remember when we didn’t even know each other’s names?” “I can’t believe we actually founded a school.”
Yes, 8th graders, you have a left a mark on our young school. Not just a mark, but a legacy. You inspired our weekly Virtues Ceremony, you test-drove our first year of Advisory, you inaugurated Virtueen, you completed dozens of POWS and participated in (hundreds?) of thinking routines … and you found a mascot!
And I’ve watched you, and eight of you more closely (my advisees), journey through this process of high school choice. Along the high school choice way, I’ve noticed how IVA has left its mark on you.
As you explored your options, your refined educational palate told you what to look for. You came back from shadow days saying, “I liked when I saw students actually engaged in the learning, but I didn’t like a teacher talking at or down to students.” You know authentic engagement! You have an appetite for an educational culture that puts you at the center of the learning. You know what it looks like and feels like to think deeply.
As you evaluated your options, your knowledge of your mind and self guided you. You know you’re strong in math and sciences, but you couldn’t do life without art. You know what you’re curious about. And, you know how to process your decisions. You can access what’s behind your fear or apathy or closed-mindedness and move toward growth and clarity.
Finally, as you prepare to leave IVA, you’re “grieving” well. You’re reflecting on your experience and thinking about how you’ll carry a sense of educational community with you. You’ve developed a sort of “learning empathy,” a way of coming alongside a classmate and venturing into unknown territory and communicating about your limits, mistakes, and progress. You will be a gift to your new educational community, wherever that is.
I can’t reflect on the importance of this moment with 8th graders without feeling a deep sense of appreciation for their parents. Parents, you took a risk! You were autonomous and courageous, especially during a time when you are in the position of “managing education” like never before.
And I can’t help but look forward to opportunities ahead. I’m excited that a team of visionaries and innovators is developing a place where a group of 9th students will experience the bonding, risk-taking, and personal growth in the process of founding a high school. And when they graduate, they will process their college choice with valuable self-knowledge and decision-making skills -- just one way to experience learning and living well.
By Jana McAdams, Math and PE Teacher
Here is a checkerboard. How many squares are there on the board?
If there are three bats that can see from their left eye, one that can see out of its right eye, and four that cannot see out of their left eye, how many potential bats are there?
A farmer dropped and broke all of her eggs. She knew that in certain groupings, there were some eggs left over and in other groupings, no eggs were left over. How many eggs did she have?
Instructions: Explain every step you went through to solve the problems. Write down what you thought, when you thought it, and how you thought. Is there a correct way to solve the problem? Is there more than one solution? Illuminate your thinking. Expand on it. Tell me more.
This is a sampling of “Problems of the Week” (POWs), which are a regular part of the math curriculum at IVA. From a teacher’s perspective, giving students POWs is an opportunity for them to think like a mathematician. It aids them in systematic processing to think through problems in a deep and meaningful way. As students progress through POWs during the year, the goal is for them to come away with tools that they are able to pull out and use when confronted with any type of difficult problem. We are asking students to tap into the intellectual virtues that will ultimately help them in pursuit of becoming a lifelong learner.
In a recent reflection on POWs, one sixth-grade student realized the value of a growth mindset. She commented: “I was able to realize that a growth mindset can help you expand your curiosity and weaken your fixed mindset.” She also recognized the importance of curiosity in aiding her toward success, saying that “you had to be able to have many questions and thoughts when you write your prompt ... I had ideas and thoughts on how different ways could work to solve the problem.” The natural outpouring of this growth mindset contributed to the demonstration of intellectual virtues which led to deep understanding.
The POWs are structured in a way that is intended to lead students towards deep understanding; it just does not happen at first glance. Along the way, students must also demonstrate intellectual humility in recognizing that they may be incorrect in their original thinking. Another comment from this student put it beautifully: “When you solve a problem ... be honest with yourself and write down what you don’t know for sure and what you think; you could be correct. That may make you feel better and stronger about yourself.” Sometimes original ideas can be correct and sometimes they are not, but students must be able to be intellectually humble in admitting that they are attempting an idea that could be wrong. Many times, growth in learning happens when students see how they were incorrect. If one is not willing to accept this failure, there is little chance to grow.
At the end of the process, it is a teacher’s hope that students come to understand themselves better as thinkers and learners. It is a long process that involves many roads with blocks or bumps along the way, but it eventually leads to a clearing. As students come to understand their own selves, their road may still contain struggles, but these struggles can now be met with confidence. The same student explained how this self-understanding has made her a better thinker overall: “I have discovered the true mind I have, where I am able to think and learn thoroughly and let my strengths grow and my weaknesses die. That is because what POWs try and teach you is that your abilities are a big part of what’s inside you and that you can think deeper when you are into learning. If you make learning fun, then your brain can become curiously expanded to any subject.”
What does your road to learning look like? When there are detours in the path, are they met with confidence?
(image by Bulgarian photographer Aneta Ivanova)
By Dr. Jason Baehr, IVA Co-founder
When a good event or idea gains very wide exposure, some kind of backlash or criticism is inevitable. A case in point: Mark Zuckerberg recently announced that he and his wife would contribute 99% of their shares in Facebook to charity, making for a $45 billion gift. Two days later, there was a debate in the New York Times about whether their decision was effectively a “tax dodge.”
In education, the concept of “grit” has been on the rise in recent years. As “grit guru” Angela Duckworth defines it, grit is “perseverance and passion for long-term goals.” Many educators have felt that Duckworth’s ideas about grit capture an important and sorely neglected aspect of good education—that teachers and schools need to do more to help their students become grittier. Consequently, “grit” is now a familiar educational buzzword. Educators across the country are eager to learn more about what grit is and the kinds of classroom interventions that can help foster it. (For the relationship between grit and intellectual virtues, see this earlier post.)
Unsurprisingly, the turn to grit in education has had some detractors. Last week, The Atlantic published an essay titled “The Limitations of Teaching ‘Grit’ in the Classroom.” Citing a recent talk by Tyrone C. Howard, the associate dean for equity and inclusion at UCLA, the author argues that the present preoccupation with grit is obscuring the fact that many students fail to succeed, not because they aren’t gritty enough, but on account of a very different set of personal or environmental challenges, including poverty, problems at home, homelessness, past trauma, and mental health issues. The author contends that schools and teachers need to pay at least as much attention to these other factors as they do to trying to instill greater grit in their students.
Interpreted as an objection to “educating for grit,” this argument falls short. We can address the social, emotional, and related needs of students while also doing what we can to help them grow in grit. However, understood as a reminder that a focus on grit must be accompanied by an understanding of students as “whole persons” with individual histories and lives that extend well beyond the classroom, the argument is cogent and relevant.
The mission of the Intellectual Virtues Academy is to foster “meaningful growth” in virtues like curiosity, open-mindedness, intellectual courage, and intellectual tenacity or “grit”—and to do so “in a thoughtful, challenging, and supportive academic environment.” The mention of a certain type of environment in IVA’s mission statement is no accident. We take very seriously the idea that intellectual virtues arise in supportive relational and cultural contexts. This recognition is reflected in several features of the school:
First: there is a pervasive focus at IVA on cultivating and maintaining positive relationships, including between the principal and her teachers, among the teachers, between teachers and students, among the students, and beyond. Our goal is to shape students’ “habits of mind.” And we realize this can only be done in environments in which students feel respected and cared for by others.
Second: there is also a pervasive focus on creating an overall school culture that is supportive of intellectual character growth. This involves addressing the basic social and emotional (or, where necessary, even physical) needs of students and aligning the basic practices, values, language, and other culture-making elements of the school with this goal.
Third: in keeping with the first two points, IVA also takes a very careful, thoughtful, and relational approach to discipline and conflict resolution. Here as well students are treated with respect and as whole persons. An emphasis is placed, not just on their behavior, but also on the beliefs, attitudes, feelings, and other psychological (even physical) factors that give rise to this behavior.
Fourth: IVA has a unique advisory program in which students meet weekly in groups of eight with a trained adult advisor to explore topics they are intrinsically curious about, and to do so in a thoughtful, structured, and interactive manner. While the primary goal of the advisory program is to nurture students’ curiosity, we recognize that students will feel “safe” to explore and expand their intellectual interests only if they feel known and cared for. Therefore, a primary responsibility of advisors is getting to know and being an ongoing supportive presence to their advisees.
Fifth: adult stakeholders at IVA seeks to practice a kind of “intellectual therapy” with students. This idea comes from a recent paper (forthcoming in this book) by IVA co-founder and board member Steve Porter. Porter argues that some students fail to experience intellectual character growth on account of inhibiting “representations of self” (e.g. “Anything less than perfection means I’m worthless” or “If I am wrong about something then I am the stupidest kid in the class”). As a remedy, he recommends that teachers and other adult figures do what they can to help students adopt alternative, growth-oriented views of themselves (e.g. “We all make mistakes sometimes and that’s okay” or “If I try hard to learn, I often succeed”). However, Porter emphasizes that these efforts will be effective only in the context of a “reparative relational experiences,” that is, only when the teacher forges a relationship with her students marked by care, attentiveness, acceptance, and trust.
The distinction between character and environment is an important one. As educators, it can be tempting to focus exclusively on one or the other. This temptation must be resisted. A kind of double vision—maintaining a focus on the intellectual character of students and the environments that shape and inform this character—is essential.
By Katherine Lo, high school English teacher in Anaheim, CA
Recently, a friend and fellow teacher brought this story to my attention, which describes the experience of a 17-year-old student who left his high school for a trimester to study and learn completely independently. He was motivated to do this because, in his experience with school, “It just feels a little bit like you just have to keep doing one thing after another, but without a whole lot of thinking about an education in general.”
This statement really struck a nerve with me, naming an issue I have wrestled with as a high school English teacher for the past nineteen years: the haunting reality that all too often, we teachers regularly explain concepts to our students and give them tasks to complete without ever (or very infrequently) discussing the reasons why. Or that the only reasons we do provide are fairly limited and superficial—to gain the skills and knowledge to be able to go to a good college and get a good job. These are good and motivating reasons, but they are also fairly vague and far off in the future, which means they lack the power to provide real meaning and motivation to the bored and restless student who is counting the minutes until lunch time. In my experience, there are three types of students in every classroom: those who come in with some type of intrinsic motivation and/or curiosity already in place and are genuinely interested in the material; those who don’t particularly enjoy the content or experience but realize they must do the work to please parents, teachers, and achieve their long-term goals; and those who don’t care about the material or completing the work at all and show up to school every day because their parents make them. As a wise colleague once pointed out to me, student compliance is not the same thing as student engagement.
In the course of my career, I have often been guilty of mistaking student compliance with student engagement, and that is something I’ve been working to address in the past few years. Where I used to start the school year with a few ice-breaker activities followed by an explanation of class rules and my grading policies, I now start my classes with a reflection activity. I ask my students to think, write about, and discuss questions like Why are you here in school? What do you think the value of an education is? Do you see struggle as a positive or a negative thing? What comes to mind when you hear the words ‘smart’ and ‘intelligent’? Do you think intelligence is fixed or can change? In my sophomore classes, after they have discussed their answers in small groups, I compile a class list of reasons for going to school—everything from “it’s the law” to “so I can learn new things”— and have them take their lists home and ask their parents to add two more reasons and sign the paper. The next day, we discuss the parents’ reasons and how they compare to the reasons the students came up with themselves. When I ask how many of the students have never talked to their parents about this before now, the majority of them raise their hands.
These questions and this discussion then leads to an introduction to the concept of intellectual character and the notion that developing intellectual virtues can provide a much more deeply meaningful and motivating purpose for their time in school than “because I have to,” and that it connects and gives context to many of the other reasons like “so I can learn” and “so I can have a better future.” Teaching for intellectual virtues provides, as I like to think of it, a metanarrative for their entire learning experience. Instead of their day being fragmented into classes and activities with no seeming connection to each other or to the students themselves other than as a bunch of tasks to complete, each experience becomes connected to the continuous and ongoing process of developing their own intellectual character and habits—traits and habits that have the potential to not only benefit them in the future, but can also benefit and bring meaning in the immediate moment.
This approach also provides a helpful framework for me as a teacher. For example, instead of simply saying, “I want you to write an essay that has a clear thesis and strong topic sentences,” we first talk about the value of developing good writing skills. I also have them reflect on what intellectual virtues they might be strengthening or developing in the process of writing the essay. For students who have long viewed themselves as “bad writers,” it’s an incredibly empowering shift if they can view this struggle as a way to develop their perseverance in at least trying to get all the way through it or if they get praised for their intellectual humility when they admit they don’t know how to begin. It is an entry point for true engagement and an experience of learning that can give them a taste for more, which is, ultimately, what we want for all of our students.
By Tenelle Porter, Post-Doctoral Researcher, University of California, Davis
It’s commencement season and last week I found myself listening to David Foster Wallace’s speech to Kenyon College graduates. He tells a story of two young fish that pass an older fish who is swimming in the opposite direction. The older fish says “Morning boys, how’s the water?” The young fish swim along for a while until one looks at the other and says “What the heck is water?”
The point of the fish story, Wallace explains, is that we are often blind to the most obvious and important realities. Even more, lots of things that we are absolutely, automatically certain about turn out to be completely wrong.
Research suggests Wallace is right. Lots of work in psychology shows that we routinely overestimate how much we know, that we have self-serving biases that distort our thinking, and that we are blind to our own bias (while holding fast to the belief that others are biased).
This sounds like a bunch of bad news -- especially for those us who strive to be (and want to educate children to be) fair thinkers, and genuinely open-minded. Are our strivings in vain? Is there any overcoming the forces that incline us to thick-headedness?
New research coming out of Duke, Brown, Princeton, Cornell, and Stanford (among other places) suggests that the answer is yes. This research investigates Intellectual Humility – one of IVA’s intellectual virtues.
Intellectual humility is about acknowledging that in the vastness of all there is to know, what I know is only partial. It’s about owning my intellectual mistakes, and believing that I have something to learn from everyone.
New research is suggesting that, despite the many tendencies that make it hard to have intellectual humility, it’s possible to have it. And when you do have it, it can help you.
For example, in research that I did at Stanford University with Karina Schumann and Carol Dweck, we found that the more intellectually humble an adult was, the more likely they were to learn from those who disagreed with them. They were also more liked and respected by others.
In other research, we found that freshman and sophomores in high school who were higher in intellectual humility were rated by their classmates as being more admired, more respected and more intelligent. Their teacher also rated them as being more engaged in learning. The intellectually humble students also ended up earning higher grades in math (those were the only grades we looked at), and growing more in math achievement over the school year.
Interestingly, in the same high school study, students who didn’t like it when others pointed out their mistakes (a negative indicator of intellectual humility) also ended up earning higher grades in math. However, when we looked at how the intellectually humble students ended up with higher grades vs. how the students who were uncomfortable with their mistakes ended up with higher grades, we found very different paths to achievement.
The students who were high in intellectual humility cared more about learning and their strong motivation to learn is what fueled their achievement. By contrast, the students who didn’t like it when others pointed out their mistakes cared more about looking smart, and their motivation to look smart is what propelled their achievement.
In the long run, caring a lot about looking smart can sabotage intellectual growth – particularly when the going gets tough. For example, if I care a lot about looking smart and enroll in a course in quantum mechanics where I quickly realize that I don’t look smart, I may disengage from the course– stop doing the homework, stop coming to class, maybe even drop the class. But if I care a lot about learning – and care more about learning than looking smart – I can persist in the course because it is a valuable learning opportunity.
Bottom line: in our study, intellectual humility boosted students’ achievement, and it also seemed to foster a more durable, adaptive motivation to learn.
Because intellectual humility seemed beneficial in our research, we wanted to investigate how to foster it. Our research suggests that one way to become more intellectually humble is to monitor how you think – particularly, how you think about the nature of intelligence.
We found that when we taught college students that intelligence can grow and develop (a growth mindset of intelligence) they became more intellectually humble. When we taught students that intelligence is a fixed, stable trait (a fixed mindset of intelligence), it dampened their intellectual humility.
We believe one reason these mindsets about intelligence affect intellectual humility is because they make it more or less easy to acknowledge what you don’t know. In a growth mindset, if you don’t know something you can learn it and get smarter. In a fixed mindset, if you don’t know something, your innate, fixed level of intelligence is called into question.
Certainly, there is a lot about intellectual humility, and other intellectual virtues, that we don’t yet understand. But the burgeoning empirical research is beginning to uncover the nature and consequences of these constructs. Indeed, how little we know, how eager to learn.
By Jana McAdams, Physical Education teacher
I am not sure that it is a normal thing to text friends and colleagues about how much I am enjoying grading students' projects. It is for sure not a normal thing to post an Instagram of my grading with the caption that I enjoy reading my students' thinking!
However, that is where I found myself this weekend. Recently, I assigned my students a project that required them to break down Track & Field events into specific skills, their movements, and the importance of these movements. I was blown away by their insightful responses. They inspired me to send a text to a friend of mine saying, "Sounds silly, but I am SO loving grading my students' work right now and getting really excited. They are saying and explaining things that make me think, ‘Yes! That's an amazing thought!’" I also texted a colleague, a credentialed teacher and chief academic officer at a nearby private school, with a reflection quotation from one of my students, telling her how amazed that I was with their thinking. My students were making such profound statements! Here is a brief sampling of some of their thoughts:
I care that people as fast as me are there so we can have a great race...I would rather come in last having a good challenge then come in first with people not as fast as me.
I also wonder if I am going to win when I run. When we do the relay races, I get really nervous when it is our turn and I always ask myself, "Am I getting the team down?" Then I realize that we all make mistakes.
I wonder if it is better to have the fastest runner on your team run first, second, third, or fourth and what place the slowest runner should run at.
I have noticed that is can be very helpful to focus on all the other contestants that seem to be doing well and see what they are doing. Look at what seems to make them do better than everybody else. Try to mimic them.
Even though physical education is my passion, I had never considered that these learning opportunities were possible. Now I recognize that as I have grown as a thinker at IVA, it just comes natural to have students engage in new ways of thinking as well, and no class is an exception.
By Steve Porter, Board Member
Did you ever read your kids the Mrs. Piggle-Wiggle books? In each chapter, a parent has a behavior problem with her child (e.g., cleaning up his room, taking a bath, talking back) and the parent calls around the neighborhood to ask if any of the other parents have the same problem. The response from the other parents is always the same: “Oh, goodness no, my Jenny loves taking baths. I am so sorry your child isn’t like my Jenny.” Whatever the problem is, the other parents’ kids are golden. Finally, someone will suggest that the parent call Mrs. Piggle-Wiggle because she has a reputation for remedying childhood disobedience. When the parent calls Mrs. Piggle-Wiggle, she is always sympathetic and always has a guaranteed cure. While Mrs. Piggle-Wiggle does much better in her response than the earlier parents’ counsel, even Mrs. Piggle-Wiggle’s cures are a bit quick and easy. I found myself hoping that merely reading the stories to my kids would solve the often familiar problems! If only getting our kids to do what we know would be good for them was so easy. It’s not, but why?
While the reasons kids don’t do what we want can be complex, often it’s quite simple. Children do not do what we want them to do for the same reason we often don’t do what other people want us to do. Put simply: we want to do something else. Humans have these things called wills and our wills are guided by our desires and our desires become ingrained in us such that we are predisposed to act in certain ways and not in others. If you put a chocolate chip cookie in front of me, chances are I am going to eat it. That’s because I desire as many chocolate chip cookies as I can get. Indeed, I desire them above every other food group and my will doesn’t stand much of a chance of resisting. The basic psychology is fairly straightforward. The end result is: it is challenging to get persons to do something other than what they want to do.
Of course, one tempting solution is to develop a countervailing desire that ends up trumping the previously dominant desire. In other words, if I desired to look good at the pool more than the gratification of eating too many cookies, my will could resist eating the cookies due to the stronger desire to look good at the pool. This is called a diet! A diet is usually tied to something you want more (weight loss) than the oily, sugary, salty, high-calorie foods. But the problem with diets is that they often fail to deal with our desires for oily, sugary, salty, high-calorie foods. Once the countervailing desire diminishes (for example, we lose the weight), we go back to eating what we ate before (and we gain the weight back). If we really want to change when it comes to what we eat, we are going to have to deal with the roots of these deeply entrenched desires when it comes to food. In other words, we will have to retrain our appetite. But that is a long and challenging journey for most us.
Same thing holds for education. The easiest way to get your child to study math when she doesn’t want to study math is to give her something else she desires more (a good grade, money for good grades, candy!). She can then use her desire for a good grade or the money or candy to motivate her to study math. She’d rather do something else instead, but as long as there is this countervailing desire for a good grade or money or candy that trumps her desire to quit studying math, she will keep studying.
But this method of motivating learning has the same problem as diets. Once the countervailing desire diminishes (she doesn’t care about good grades or money or candy), the motivation to study is gone and we go back to our dominant desires. In fact, this way of motivating education often results in the same pattern as dieting: students (and dieters) work really, really hard for two weeks to reach their goal and then go back to normal.
So, if we want lasting change in our children’s learning habits, what do we do? It’s called an intellectual virtues education. I’m serious. An intellectual virtues education takes seriously our students’ desires to learn. Why do they want to learn? Why don’t they want to learn? How can we help them see the goodness of learning? What are their strengths and weaknesses when it comes to learning (e.g., open-mindedness, humility, courage, etc.)? The point of an intellectual virtues education is not to give them some other good (grades, money, candy!) and use that to motivate their attempts to learn. The point of an intellectual virtues education is to help train their intellectual appetites. But that will be a long and difficult journey for most of our children.
Here is a take-home point: an intellectual virtues education is a long game; it takes time. If you want an educational model that helps your child learn short-term strategies to do well on tests (akin to losing weight fast), an intellectual virtues education is not for you. But if you want an educational model that helps your child develop an appetite for thinking well and learning about important areas of human thought, then an intellectual virtues education is for you. It’s a challenging road, but it truly is a better way to learn.
By Jana McAdams, PE Teacher
The words “physical education” have the ability to evoke a variety of thoughts, memories, and feelings. Thoughts of glorified free-play or the “easy A class.” Memories of the weekly mile or the football coach teacher. Feelings of anxiety about having to dress out or of pride as you were the first one picked for kickball.
In an education system of constant change and growth, it is no surprise that physical education has been evolving along the way. Long gone are the days of synchronized calisthenics and drills, of a teacher just rolling out a ball, of students being singled out in large elimination games. Although there still may be faint traces of these old ways of “learning” in some physical education classes, a more positive shift towards teaching students to become lifelong movers has been emerging. This fun and informative three-minute video does a good job of explaining some of these themes.
Here are three ways that physical education has been changing its focus over the years:
As students begin to experience the new path of physical education, they will be able to emerge as competent thinkers and movers who can make autonomous decisions that will positively impact their health for the rest of their lives.
By Ian McCurry, English Teacher
At Intellectual Virtues Academy of Long Beach, our goal is to “foster meaningful growth in intellectual character virtues.” Quite a lofty goal. As I speak to friends, family members, and prospective parents about our school and our mission, a response I often receive is: “This all sounds great! But what does this look like in the classroom?”
Ron Ritchhart, both his writing and leadership, have helped provide an answer to this question. Two of his books in particular, Intellectual Character: What it is, Why it Matters, and How to Get it and Making Thinking Visible have been instrumental as I’ve sought to create an environment in my classroom where students’ intellectual characters can grow and thrive.
The focus that Ritchhart and his colleagues place on “thinking” in the classroom is right in line with the values of IVA. Many of the activities my students engage in on a regular basis revolve around the “thinking routines” that Ritchhart and his colleagues developed. Thinking routines are simple, step-by-step exercises that require students to practice intellectual virtues like attentiveness, open-mindedness, and curiosity. For example, following a recent school field trip to the Los Angeles Museum of Tolerance, I had my students write a reflection using the thinking routine, “I Used to Think…Now I Think…” This routine has students reflect on knowledge and understanding they had prior to a learning experience and reflect on how that knowledge and understanding has changed following the learning experience.
The field trip was a culminating experience following the reading of Anne Frank: The Diary of Young Girl. This simple prompt elicited thoughts and ideas from my students that got right to the heart of Anne Frank: The Diary of a Young Girl and the tragedy of this time in world history. Students were able to dig deep within their own thoughts and experiences and use those to reflect powerfully on the staggering disregard for human dignity of World War II. Students were able to gain a more complete understanding of the Holocaust and see how their original thoughts and ideas were missing some of the big picture. A few of their words have been copied below:
“I used to think that the Nazis and Hitler were the only people to blame for the Holocaust. Now I see that it was also ordinary people to blame for not helping people escape and for helping Hitler. What I mean by this is if certain countries would have let Jews escape, including the United States, less people would have died…there would have been more survivors.”
“I used to think that the Holocaust was a really bad thing that happened in the past. Now I realize the full implications of the Holocaust and understand it more fully. I now know of the terror and death that lived in those dark times, and I realize that the Holocaust is much worse and more cruel and inhumane that I had thought before.”
“I used to believe that the Holocaust was just another tragic moment in history…The Holocaust was extremely tragic, yet there is so much we can learn from it like why tolerance is so important to our world and why human dignity is so important to us as a whole.”
“I used to think that the Holocaust was the only large genocide of the 20th century, but now I think a lot more happened that has been covered up by society. While the Holocaust is better known there was also the Gulags from the Soviet Union and the Armenian Genocide.”
Ritchhart’s acute focus on how to get students thinking promotes rich discussions in my class. His writing has prompted me as an educator to think critically about the kinds of questions I am asking my students. He has helped me reevaluate the types of assignments and feedback I give students. Often I’ll find myself asking, “What type of thinking does this task really require? What is it I really want my students to do here?” The fact that I still, after more than three years, find myself thumbing through his books for ideas about an upcoming unit has persuaded me that his work in education is more than just another passing phase. Ritchhart emphasizes thinking and learning. And good schools will always be eager for ways to better facilitate thinking and learning amongst their students.
By Stephanie Pullman (IVA parent) and Chloe Pullman (IVA 6th grader)
From Stephanie ...
My daughter, Chloe is currently in sixth grade at IVA. One of the many great things about her being at IVA is that it has opened up a whole new way for us to communicate with each other. We talk about the virtues, about advisory and all the activities that she is engaged in. I also help her with some of her home-thinking assignments, which also provide us with many topics to ponder together.
I am a teacher in an Upper Elementary Montessori classroom. I asked Chloe if she wanted to come to work with me on the most recent Faculty Academy day. She loves coming back to see her classmates from pre-school and kindergarten. She expressed interest in what I was going to do that day and if she could help me. I told her that I teach art on Fridays and we were going to begin studying the artist, Jackson Pollock. I asked her how she thought I should introduce him to the students. She suggested the thinking routine See-Think-Wonder. I was familiar with the routine because Ms. Denis demonstrated it at one of the parent nights. Before the lesson, I consulted Ms. Denis and the book Making Thinking Visible. Chloe wrote up some notes cards to tell my students where she goes to school now, about the virtues and how thinking routines are used to help guide students through the learning process.
My students were so intrigued by the process and extremely engaged. My teaching partner kept looking at me in disbelief at the inspired observations the children shared. Chloe told us that it was really important to not mix up the ideas of seeing and thinking. It was such a great tip and showed me how much she has internalized the process.
Thank you IVA for showing me how to create deeper thinking in my classroom and bringing me closer to my daughter!
From Chloe ...
See-Think-Wonder is one of my favorite thinking routines! This routine requires autonomy, open mindedness, tenacity and curiosity. All the virtues are incorporated in every thinking routine. When I heard that my mom was teaching her class about Jackson Pollock I thought of this routine right away because we do it all the time in art when we are looking at paintings. My mom was very happy with the idea that I had in mind and the results turned out very well. This routine got the students thinking about the paintings in a whole new way. One student had the idea that she saw a kitchen and one thought they saw a cat! I saw how many different ways you can see things and hearing what they all had to say was very interesting. I was so impressed by the effort that all the students put in to thinking and seeing and wondering about the paintings. There was a sort of pattern that I saw in these students. When one student had an idea that the others had not thought of, they would look at the painting very closely until they saw it themselves. I think that is very important because seeing and thinking and wondering about other people’s ideas is what really got me happy!
By Amy Callan Miller
I always knew that I wanted to be a mother. My sister and I would often play “pretend” which meant that I, the naturally bossy, big sister, was the mother and she was the child. She usually went along with my plan, but she has never stopped mentioning my bossiness. As it turns out, she became a mother first, and I remember being awestruck by her first-born son. He thought I had my own train since I lived right next to, practically under, a railroad trestle. It was an event every time the train came by. I loved the wonderment in his young eyes. It was several years later before I found my husband. Soon after, our first child was on the way and we specifically chose not to find out whether it was a boy or a girl. My husband said it this way, “There are so few ‘good’ surprises in the world, can we let this be one of them?”
When our son showed up I was elated but also overwhelmed. Although I had waited my whole life for this moment, I somehow felt completely alone, even depressed at times. I was empty, which may have been compounded by the fact that my son and I shared a physical residence for nine months. My husband is a supportive and fun partner but his life quickly returned to normal, other than the interrupted sleep sessions at night. My son and I meanwhile, spent our days eating and pooping and walking and napping. I thought, “This is it?” Yes, he was cute, adorable and genuinely happy, but I still felt a sense of loneliness wrapped in despair. We didn’t have many friends since we had just moved to town, but we had each other. I remember accidentally bumping his forehead into our coffee table one afternoon and though it was not a significant injury, he didn’t even cry, I sobbed. It was in that moment that I realized I knew nothing. I had grown up, gone to college, even lived overseas for a period of time. I had loved my career and had taken a new job and moved across country, on my own. All of that seemed so important at the time, but then in an instant, none of it mattered. I knew nothing. I sat looking at my infant son and wondered how in the world I had gotten the job of being his guardian and his protector. How did I earn the privilege of being his mother? Was I even qualified for this assignment? I felt like my physical being melted away, into a puddle of humility, but at the same time I felt an immense sense of relief.
Eventually I came to see that in that moment I accepted my son as my teacher. It took the pressure off. Two and a half years later our daughter arrived and together the two of them immediately joined forces to show me the way. They have tested every corner of my brain and heart. In their natural delight they taught me how to be present. They taught me how to stop listening to the inner-dialogue that did not serve us. They gave me permission to explore the wonders of childhood all over again. I realized I had missed some things along the way. Now I had a chance to dive in, head first. I started witnessing their reflections as a part of me. Even the ugly ones, where I was driven to act out a less than a desirable behavior…raising my voice when unnecessary, coming from a place of fear, not being the grown up. I learned to forgive myself. The biggest lesson has been about unconditional love. The kids have taught me how to not only love them fully and wholly, but also to love myself, with compassion, unconditionally.
The early days of my kids’ lives did not include the specific and direct language of the virtues, but now I realize that is exactly the example they were setting. Curiosity, Intellectual Humility, Intellectual Autonomy, Attentiveness, Intellectual Carefulness, Intellectual Thoroughness, Open-mindedness, Intellectual Courage, Intellectual Tenacity…literal examples come to mind to do with these virtues. Watching the caterpillar cross the sidewalk, trying to walk and falling down, saying “no”, placing a soggy cheerio in my hand, figuring out which shoe goes on which foot, starting over to get dressed when you forget underwear and socks, loving every person they see, attempting to speak and read while fumbling with the words, and trying to climb the tree, the steps, the hill, again and again.
Of course they have not mastered the virtues yet, but they freely explore their depths, continually. They authentically work towards having a growth mindset as opposed to a fixed mindset because they are committed to learning. Now that we are experiencing IVA, through our 7th grade daughter’s vantage point, we can see how simply she connects the dots. We are acquiring the language to support a deeper learning about ourselves and each other and the world around us. It is challenging but it is so rewarding. I shared with her one day after a virtues ceremony how when I was a kid I was afraid to raise my hand and ask a question in class unless I was pretty sure that I was correct. She immediately replied by saying, “You were not practicing Intellectual Autonomy, Mom. That is sad.” Of course, as I revisited the sadness I was also able to relish and appreciate the fact that my twelve year old daughter understands what autonomy is, and values it. May she always honor and respect her ability to think and reason for herself.
"Moving Through Fear and Beyond Stuck"
By Rebecca Irwin (an IVA parent)
When you don’t know where to begin.
When you don’t even know the questions to ask.
When you don’t want to admit you don’t know.
When you feel like you should be better.
When you thought you knew the solution and it turns out you don’t.
When you’re afraid to take the risk.
When you have a hard time asking for help.
When you see others do it with ease and you struggle.
When you compare yourself to others.
When you feel embarrassed about where you are.
When you expect the end result without working through the process.
There are so many ways to get stuck. It can feel just like a tire that is stuck in the mud, the more we spin, the more stuck we get. And then there’s the energy of our fears keeping us there.
Fear of judgment
Fear of shame
Fear of embarrassment
Fear of failure
Fear of being wrong
Fear of not knowing
Fear of expectations
Fear of disappointment
Fear of losing popularity
Fear of success
Fear of rejection
All of these fears play into getting and staying stuck! Panic and anxiety are outcomes and the process is circumvented just to get through it.
Today I discovered that one of the beautiful gifts of the Intellectual Virtues is that they help us to slow down. They allow process. They give us permission to say, I am not good at this YET. Before today, I was under the impression that a student must approach each subject with curiosity to think well about it. But I have learned that if a student stretches their Intellectual Attentiveness with a readiness to stay focused on the task and to notice important details, their curiosity can grow. I find this so hopeful!
When my student or I exercise a virtue and invest in the process, we can actually begin to care more deeply about a subject. We can let go of our fear to get the correct answer and free ourselves to take more risk. Oh yes, this is Intellectual Courage - "a readiness to persist in thinking or communicating in the face of fear, including fear of embarrassment or failure”! Although this is hard for me to practice myself and model for my student, I think risk is where the reward is! Isn’t it delightful to discover new ideas? Isn’t it exhilarating to realize you can do something you never thought you were capable of? Isn’t it awesome to move forward?
For reals? You say. This sounds idealistic and dreamy but when the rubber meets the road (er, mud), will it have any traction? This is a question I have asked myself. A person can’t very well get themselves unstuck alone, can they? But when a teacher, a principal, a parent, or a friend cares about the process and is interested in the student as a thinker and learner, they can offer leverage to help get them unstuck. No more spinning...your kiddo can start to gain traction as they move toward growth. In truth, this is requiring me to grow with my student, but I think I would prefer the journey and discoveries that lie ahead more than staying in the mires of stuck, cuz we’re not there … yet.
Our Evergreens (IVA's Green Team) have challenged us to be the solution and help reduce waste that ends up in our oceans or landfills. They are encouraging students to bring a lunch that includes as many items as possible that can be eaten, reused, recycled and as few items as possible that must be thrown away. Parents can help by including only what your child can eat, using reusable containers or bags, or buying non-perishable foods in bulk. This is not a requirement, simply a helpful list of ideas for sourcing a trash free lunch.
If you purchase reusable lunch-ware from www.MightyNest.com, they will donate money back to IVA!
• Ziploc Divided Lunch Containers are inexpensive, leak-proof, and easy-to-use with only one lid to open.
• Rubbermaid Lunch Blox
• Lunch Bots are a stainless steel option, also available on mightynest.com
• Thermos Bottles are insulated, leak-proof, durable, and they don’t sweat on the outside.
• Thermos Containers are great for sending warm lunches when you need a break from sandwiches …think oatmeal, soups or leftovers.
• Gladware Mini Round Containers are the perfect size for a single muffin and it also keeps them from getting mushed.
• Rubbermaid Blue Ice Flexible Ice Blankets can be cut to any size.
• Soft Sided Lunch Bags (like these) fit ziplock containers well.
• Neoprene Lunch Bags are easy to clean, compact when not in use and do a great job insulting food.
• Smoothie Pop Molds (a.k.a. Ice Pop Makers) are a great way to freeze smoothies, yogurt and applesauce. Then wedge them into the Ziplock divided containers where they partially defrost by lunchtime.
• Reusable Napkins can also be found on Amazon, or homemade…
• Reusable Flatware - another option is to buy a stainless set at Target, 99 cents only!, etc. and designating it for lunches only.
• Silicone Cups/Muffin Liners make great dividers for inside one piece containers.
Another great resource is www.100daysofrealfood.com - Search “Lunch Supplies” for a good list with images and links to purchase. Also a great blog for lunch ideas and recipes!
There are many similar options at stores like Marshalls, Target, Walmart, Kmart, 99 Cents Only!, Costco, Etsy.com or Amazon.com that might be more cost effective. Thank you for exploring trash-free lunch options with us!
"Introduce yourself in your most confident and resonant voice and tell us what you will be singing."
I was standing on a stage in front of a few dozen people. It was exactly at this point that I realized what an epic mistake I had made when I signed up for singing class at family camp. My legs, whose previous employment had been to hold up the rest of my body, had turned in their letters of resignation. My heart, sensing the impending doom, was banging on my chest, begging to escape. My brain tried to maintain control over its subjects, pleading for them to get their acts together. I dug deep for my “most confident and resonant voice” but what I found was neither confident nor resonant. The best I could come up with was squeaky and shaky. “My name is Cari Noble, and I will be singing ‘Notice Me, Horton’ from Seussical the Musical.”
Then the accompanist played the first note on the piano, and I was beyond the point of no return. In a panic, I scanned the room for a friendly face and found a bright-eyed and sweet 12-year-old girl that reminded me of all of you. I locked my eyes on her, took a deep breath, and started to sing. “It’s taken all my courage to approach you, not to mention all my stamina to follow you across the hills and deserts.” She knew the song, so she mouthed the words along with me (which was incredibly lucky because my brain, realizing it was the captain of a mutinous ship, had finally surrendered). And then, before I knew it, it was over. I was done. People were clapping and smiling, and I felt like I had just climbed Mount Everest after winning the World Series and all the while discovering a way to reverse global warming. I’m pretty sure I jumped in the air while spinning in circles a few times on the stage. It was exhilarating! I had done it! I was just about to head back to the safety of my seat in the audience when … the teacher asked me to sing it again. (What? I had barely survived the first go-around!) And, again. (Really?!?) But what I noticed was that each time, it got a tiny bit easier. Each time my voice got a little bit more confident. It still wasn’t comfortable. My knees were still shaking and my heart was still racing, but I also didn’t die. I eventually got to sit down and bask in the glow of my accomplishment. Not the accomplishment of singing well because I’m pretty sure I didn’t do that, but the accomplishment of being brave, even for just a few minutes.
There is this great scene in the movie “We Bought a Zoo”. A boy, who is too embarrassed to tell a cute girl that he likes her, gets this advice from his dad. He says, “You know, sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it.” The boy’s twenty seconds of courage got him the girl. My twenty seconds of courage got me out of my chair and onto the stage. Maybe for you, it takes twenty seconds of courage to raise your hand and admit that you don’t understand something in math class. It could take twenty seconds of courage to parachute out of an airplane or kill the cockroach you found in the shower or stand up for someone who is being put down or apologize. All of these twenty seconds lead to amazing things like love, friendship, a better understanding of math, and a roach-free shower. These are all great things in their own right, but, really, the greatness isn’t in getting the girl or singing on stage or even understanding math. The greatness is knowing that you can be brave.
By Steve Porter, IVA Board Member
I am amazed by how often my parenting consists of exhortations of the following sort: “if you’d just try harder”; “if you’d just do your homework right when you come home”; “if you’d just pay more attention in class”; “if you’d just clean your room a little bit each day”; “if you’d just not get so upset”; and so on. While these sorts of directives are well meaning, they rarely bring about change. To see why, perhaps it would be helpful to think about how these sorts of exhortations fail to bring change in our own lives. For instance, one time I heard the following dieting advice: “if you’d just eat less calories than you burn each day, you would lose weight.” Of course, that is true. But, at least for many of us, it is extremely hard to just do. In many cases, knowing what we just need to do is an important part of change, but knowing that alone is insufficient to bring about the change.
Recently my son, Luke, finished a three-year music education program that teaches piano and music theory in a small group setting. Over the last three years I have repeatedly said: “if you’d just practice piano a little bit each day, you’ll do great in this class.” But about 99.99% of the time, Luke would cram a whole week’s worth of practice into the hour or two before his class. This made learning piano stressful, frustrating, and upsetting. When Luke would angrily give up on a song that simply could not be learned in an hour, I was there with my well-timed exhortation: “if you’d just…” That always went over real well.
Luke had his final recital last Saturday. Two weeks before the recital he started practicing every day. I didn’t have to exhort him, cajole him, or even bribe him. He simply started—seemingly out of the blue—practicing every day. And he did great in his recital. But what changed? Did my exhortation finally sink in? I don’t think so. As I paid attention to the onset of Luke’s newfound motivation in practicing piano, I noted three ingredients—the same three ingredients that I regularly see at IVA.
First, Luke was rightly challenged. His piano teacher challenged him to work hard, the music itself was challenging for him, and having to perform in front of others was a challenge. The challenge wasn’t too much or too little; it was just right.
Second, he enjoyed learning. He didn’t like all of the songs and he didn’t like any of them at first, but eventually he enjoyed the music.
Third, he experienced positive momentum. In other words, he was more encouraged than discouraged in his learning. Sometimes I had to intervene to help him get this sort of traction. For instance, helping him learn a difficult section or suggesting he take a break from a difficult song.
I see these same three ingredients regularly at IVA. Our teachers and school culture rightly challenge our students to be attentive, to be autonomous, to be courageous. The students regularly enjoy the learning process and this gets positive momentum going whereby they are more encouraged than discouraged by their learning. Of course, sometimes one or the other of these ingredients does not materialize. But what is wonderful about IVA is that you don’t hear people saying: “if you’d just…”
As the school year comes to a close and we move into summer, be thinking about how you might rightly challenge your child with enjoyable learning opportunities that would help her or him keep building on the positive momentum of the nine master virtues.